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Chastity Talk
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A Father And Son Talk About That Dreaded Victorian Word Chastity
Johnny, it's time you and I have a talk about your growing into
manhood particularly your sexuality. You know the expression of
physical love between man and woman is a highly intense,
emotional, and enjoyable experience. If none of this were true
before marriage it certainly wouldn't be true after marriage.
In the near future, over the next couple of years you will
experience some of the desires of the sexual drive. It is
important to understand two things about the sexual drive. It
is normal, and it is controllable. When a female dog is in heat
the only way to keep the male and female dogs apart is to chain
them up. Unlike animals, humans have control over their sexual
drive. Unlike the drive for food, air, water, no one will ever
die from not satisfying the sexual drive. Unlike animals, we
human beings have responsibility for our actions, to our
fellowman. So it becomes highly important to understand how and
why we need to exercise control over the Sexual drive.
Johnny, first I am going to make a statement, and as we go
along you will understand why the statement is true. Humans are
designed to share physical love only in a committed marital
partnership. The physical love expressed between male and
female is part of the glue that holds a marriage together which
is necessary for the raising of children. When Sex gets outside
of the bonds of marriage, it becomes destructive to marriage and
the family relationships.
Johnny, I want to tell you about one area where the control of
the sex drive can be easily lost. It is highly degrading to
both men and women. It has a tendency to be both addictive and
progressive in nature. What I am talking about here is
pornography. Soft core pornography leads to hard core
pornography, and that leads to a whole host of problems. It can
lead to sexual promiscuity, sexual harassment, child
molestation, sexual abuse, rape and sexual crimes as those
committed by Jeffrey Dalmer. I urge you strongly, from the
bottom of my heart to avoid the degradation and debasing of men
and women, and stay away from pornography.
Johnny, the consequences of sex outside of marriage are many.
First there is always a risk of pregnancy, and regardless of any
contraceptives all to often out of wedlock pregnancies occur.
An out of wedlock pregnancy has responsibilities which most
young people are not ready to face. All to often many young
people rather than face up to those responsibilities will use
abortion as a secondary means of contraception. This is nothing
more than the killing of innocent life. Then there are the
substantial risks for contracting venereal diseases. A number
of them are not curable. You can suffer from them for the rest
of your life. One disease namely Aids is an automatic death
sentence.
Johnny, a number of the sexually transmitted diseases can be
caught with or without a condom since the condom only protects
one small part of the anatomy. There are a number of other
orifices in the human body that can pick up, and start the
disease process.
Johnny, if people decide that sex before marriage is O.K.,
then why should people remain faithful to the marital partner
during marriage. There is a definite loss of trust in marriage
when one party has been fooling around before marriage. When
physical sex occurs before marriage there is a definite drop off
in the communication between the partners. There is a loss in
growing together on a mental, emotional and intellectual level.
Too often the couple will mistake physical love for true love,
and enter into a marriage that is doomed to disaster. It has
been said that two people should go into a marriage with both
eyes wide open and after marriage close one eye.
When one or both parties have been fooling around before
marriage they bring all of their previous partners to bed with
them in the marriage. All to often there can be comparisons
between previous partners and the marital partner. This is
destructive to the marital relationship.
Johnny, the most important gift you can give to your future
wife is to remain chaste till the day of your wedding. Once
married there will be ample time to enjoy physical love with the
most important person in your life.
Johnny, remember your Christian faith. God tells us that sex
outside of marriage is wrong. Johnny, is it really any surprise
that God was right from the very beginning? There is not one
main stream religion that does not teach that sex outside of
marriage is wrong. Christianity, the Jewish religion, the
Moslems, and the Mormons all teach that God says to wait till
you are married. Only the Humanistic religion which does not
believe in God teaches that sex outside of marriage is O.K..
Well, the years have gone by. My how my son Johnny has grown
into a young man. At 17 he is big and strong and filled with
character. I'm proud of my son. He's about to go out on his
first date. I do hope that all I've taught him has sunk home.
I'm worried. He has no doubt been influence by the pop culture
of movies, tv, and music telling the young minds that sex
outside of marriage is O.K.. All to many of his peers have
failed to wait until they are married. What happens if in the
heat of the moment he gives in to his sexual drive. I need to
give him a bit more encouragement.
Johnny, I need to remind you of our past conversations over the
years. Remember, that the most important gift that you can give
your future wife is to wait till the day you are married. Treat
your date the way you would want someone to treat your future
daughter. Then, I place into my son's hand, a condom. I tell
him this is just in case.
People what have I done? I have just undermined everything I
have been saying in one clean sweep. At the very least, I have
given him a mixed message, and have just confused the living
daylights out of my own son. The worst that I may have done is
to have destroyed every abstinence message I have taught him.
By handing out a Condom I have just said that the most important
thing in all of this is if you are going to have sex just be
responsible and contracept.
Well, I have to tell you that too many schools which should be
the third most important institution in a child's life next to
the family and church are teaching everyone's child that the
most important thing is that if you are going to have sex just
be responsible and contracept. The schools are undermining any
parent who believes and teaches their children that marriage is
the institution for sexual relations. Why is it, that if
schools really believe in so called moral neutrality they refuse
to give parents a real say, a real choice in the sex ed
curiculum?